Ask for Help
Taking care of a Veteran can be stressful. You may have a hard time saying you need help. Everyone might think you are the strong one, you might even think you have to be the strong one, but one of the best things you can do for yourself is to admit that you need help. Never be afraid to ask for help. You can get help from many sources, including your friends, extended family, and support groups. Do not let the stress build up.
Call a Friend
Taking a 5-minute break to touch base with a kind friend, relative, or neighbor, by phone or e-mail can lift your spirits. They will understand that you may not have much time, but they will be there to offer words of encouragement and support. Reach out to someone now.
Get Long Distance Help
Sometimes people who aren’t involved in the day-to-day living situation can give the best emotional support. Let your long-distance family members be the sounding board for you. Talk to them when you’re having a bad day and feeling down. Ask them to call you and be there when you call. Remind them to ask, “How are YOU doing?” in addition to getting an update on other family members. If you can, use a computer, smart phone, or tablet and video chat with them.
Use Outside Care
Respite care gives caregivers a break for an hour or two, a full day or a week to help them relieve stress and restore their sense of well-being. You will know the Veteran is in good hands.
The VA offers these services to give Caregivers a much needed break while ensuring Veterans get the assistance they need:
- In-home respite care
- Adult day care programs
- Out-of-home respite at the VAMC, VA Community Living Centers, or assisted living communities and community nursing homes
For more information about Respite Care, contact your medical team or Caregiver Support Coordinator.
Join a Support Group
Your local VA medical center, churches, nonprofit groups, community hospitals and other health care providers offer support groups specifically for Veterans and Caregivers. Support groups are safe places to talk openly about grief, fear, guilt, anger, loss, and joy. You will be able to learn coping skills and share caregiving resources. A social worker or other professional often leads the group.
Get Counseling
There is no shame in getting counseling. You may be getting individual or group counseling, but individual mental health counseling can also provide key support for Veterans and Caregivers. Many people find that going to a support group and getting private counseling helps a lot in managing stress.